Always Giving of Herself
Jules’ had a tendency to always give to others, even if it meant saying no to her own needs. Of course, this meant that she did everything in life to make others happy, particularly her partner of nearly 20 years. But, by doing so, her relationship became stressful as her unhappiness became evident in every aspect of her life. She realized her life had become too chaotic and she no longer was enjoying life. She had lost her spark, her relationship had become more of a friendship, void of passion and intimacy and she didn’t feel like she deserved anything more.
Jules thought she didn’t feel honored or respected by others but she realized that in fact, she wasn’t respecting herself either. She joined the program thinking she’d do something for herself, thinking she’d like to get in better shape and lose some weight.
She figured that might help her feel better about herself and therefore increase her self-confidence.
But she had no idea that as she got deeper into the program, what she needed was something else; to embrace her true self and start putting herself first, so she could feel truly happy and confident in her life, even if that meant undertaking some big, scary changes.
“This is all about ME, what I'm working on. Every day is a new beginning."
In Jules own words, “I’m not changing who I am, but becoming who I’ve always been”.
Since the program has finished, , Jules has started to take the steps to embrace the empowered woman that she is:
She has made changes within her relationship, creating a transition plan to fully move on to the next stage of her life as amicably as possible.
She’s shed her last name that belonged to her ex-husband that she hadn’t changed yet as it was how everyone else knew her. She’s even legally changing her first name, a name she’s never liked, that she kept because her mother insisted.
She’s started doing things for herself first. She just started dance lessons, after having taken a year-long break. She’s taking piano and singing lessons. She hikes. She golfs. She’s been painting and drawing.
Taking these steps, to Jules, is a reflection of the self-awareness and self-love she has gained. They are a symbol of her welcoming her true self and she’s incredibly excited for what’s to come!